And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ. Ephesians 4; 32

accepting one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a complaint against another. Just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you must also forgive. Colossians 3:13

I was cruel to Opa as well, and knew very little about him. Perhaps another story will help! When I approximately 14 year old, the police brought me home for stealing. When in I in my room. Opa came into caution me about stealing I believe I smile at him at that time I had very little respect for him mainly because, I WAS LOOKING FOR AN IDEAL DAD, AND HE WAS NOT! He began to weep out concern for me! There were times he was cruel to his children; however, he loves his family wanted us to do our bests in our live. Remember he married Oma, and cherished her.
Like Oma, he instilled a lot good quality in his children! A common regret among my brothers and sisters were we knew very little about him and misunderstood him !
When my father passed away in 1984, I never sought his forgiveness when I was disrespectful to him. In my teens used to say,” Sure Alice”, while most people thought it was funny to others; however, I was being sarcastic and disrespectful. The expression came from, a called The Honeymooners. Where Ralph played by Jackie Gleason, would mock his wife Alice played by Audrey Meadows. When she gave good advice to him he would in a mocking tone say, “Sure Alice.” Our relationship certainly was not like father knows bests. Frankly, I did not like him, and he thought I was useless. Although he was a very difficult man to approach, and we rarely spoke with each other. Yet, another factor I was very lack immature Christian. Despite all of those factors there was no excuse for my behaviour.
One of the valuable lessons I learned that it’s impossible to seek forgiveness when their died, and it lingered for long time. Over, over again in your mind, over time, and I learn to forgive myself as Christ forgave me.
Another lesson I learned when you offend someone seeks their forgiveness, and makes it right as soon as possible for your sake not for theirs As this Scripture states,” When you are angry, don’t let it carry you into sin. Don’t let the sunset with anger in your heart or give the devil room to work.” Or Jesus stated,” if you remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled with your brother, and then come and offer your gift. Reach a settlement quickly with your adversary.”
• Forgive as Christ forgave.
• Seek forgiveness when you offend someone.
• Lastly forgive yourself as Christ forgave you

Often, the hardest person to forgive is our love ones and ours selves. We tend to remember the negative trait within loves one, and ourselves instead of remember good quality them and ourselves. In dad case and mine we both needed to take ownership what we did wrong we did not do this, and we can’t undo this.
I love what the apostle wrote, “For I am the least of the apostles, and not fit to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God. But by the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace toward me did not prove vain; but I labored even more than all of them, yet not I, but the grace of God with me. There is a negative and positive in this passage. First, he acknowledges that he persecuted the church. Secondly, Jesus forgives him of his sins because of the grace of God he labored even more than all of them.
Another passage that uses a negative and positive is found in Philippians 3 12-13 Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus. 13 Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
I forgave dad for what he has done to me, and he forgave me as well Maybe the words he said to Stuart, ENOUGH SAID! Should be are motto remember those words came from Opa not Oma!